But, with the passing of time, you may have found him or her - and the condition - increasingly difficult to understand (to say the least). Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is very common and many a partner has found themselves in a very similar position to yours. I know that your needs are very likely to have come second to those of your partner. I'm going to cover the particular problems that you, as the partner of someone with OCD, may be experiencing and what to do about it.During my years as a counsellor I've treated many people who were suffering from OCD.If I suggested that it may be an idea for me to see their partner too, they would - understandably and unsurprisingly - be quite reluctant.
This inability to change may very well be something to accept.When they know they love someone or that someone loves them, they constantly check and reassure themselves that it is the right feeling.When they attempt to end the relationship, they are overwhelmed with anxiety.That is why the most effective behavior you can have, is to be supportive and listen, when your interest wants to share about their OCD.Show interest, but avoid being intrusive, as it might make them feel like they are being interrogated and increase the feelings of shame.